"Life is easy to trivialize and then it’s gone. 'A handful of days' as Graham often remarks. We cling desperately to memories which no doubt exercise a profound influence in shaping us, our personalities, our perceptions about good and bad behavior, but memories don’t account for our singular destinies. Careless decisions may or may not have significant consequences, and our wisest actions may penalize us all of our lives or are largely forgotten because they exercise no influences since they are never in play when we formulate our response to a future event or a set of events."