This is a story of the immense love between a mother and a daughter, about the bond they share in the face of overwhelming challenges, about how we cope with grief and loss — and how we choose to spend the time we have together.
Beth Rigsbee was 18 months old when she had her first seizure. By age 5, she was experiencing 60 a week — including episodes that forced her to wear a helmet to prevent her from hurting herself. “It was like an invisible person would just slam her to the floor,” her mother, Cindy West Rigsbee, remembers.
Neurologists diagnosed Beth with Lennox-Gastaut Syndrome, a rare form of epilepsy that accounts for just 2-5% of childhood epilepsy cases. The intensity of Beth’s seizures left lasting impacts. Now 47, she has required full-time care for her entire life. Cindy has been Beth’s primary caregiver.
In January 2023, Cindy was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer. For the first time, Cindy had to consider what Beth’s life will look like after her death.
Cindy continues to care for Beth at their home in Durham, N.C., “preparing for the worst but hoping for the best.” She works to arrange care for a future for Beth without her in it, while hoping that this uncertain future is still far away.
Cindy helps Beth get ready for the Kings and Queens Dance, a prom hosted by a local nonprofit, Reality Ministries, that works with adults of all abilities in the Triangle area of North Carolina. Prior to the COVID-19 pandemic, Cindy regularly employed caregivers through their Innovations Waiver to help care for Beth. However, following the pandemic there was a growing shortage of working caregivers available through the Medicaid system, and help proved difficult to find. For about nine months after her diagnosis, Cindy says she continued to call the agency who manages her waiver and ask for direct care support help with Beth — and the agency told her they were “working on it”. Now, caregivers come five days a week in the morning and evening to help with Beth, and Cindy continues to fill in the gaps.
Anna Connors












