This is a story of the immense love between a mother and a daughter, about the bond they share in the face of overwhelming challenges, about how we cope with grief and loss — and how we choose to spend the time we have together.
Beth Rigsbee was 18 months old when she had her first seizure. By age 5, she was experiencing 60 a week — including episodes that forced her to wear a helmet to prevent her from hurting herself. “It was like an invisible person would just slam her to the floor,” her mother, Cindy West Rigsbee, remembers.
Neurologists diagnosed Beth with Lennox-Gastaut Syndrome, a rare form of epilepsy that accounts for just 2-5% of childhood epilepsy cases. The intensity of Beth’s seizures left lasting impacts. Now 47, she has required full-time care for her entire life. Cindy has been Beth’s primary caregiver.
In January 2023, Cindy was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer. For the first time, Cindy had to consider what Beth’s life will look like after her death.
Cindy continues to care for Beth at their home in Durham, N.C., “preparing for the worst but hoping for the best.” She works to arrange care for a future for Beth without her in it, while hoping that this uncertain future is still far away.
Cindy comforts Beth after she fell and hurt her knee during the Special Olympics Horseback Riding competition in Tryon, N.C. on Sept. 24, 2023. From age 12 to 14, Beth lived in a group home for children with intellectual and developmental disabilities. “It was the best thing that I ever, I think, did for her,” Cindy said, “even though it ripped my heart out because I thought I had failed as a parent because I couldn't keep my own child.” During that time, Beth learned how to dress herself, take a shower, tie her shoes, clean the kitchen, set the table and mop and sweep the floor. However, when Cindy came to pick Beth up for a dentist appointment and found the only caregiver on duty asleep on the couch, Beth’s meds still in the cabinet, she no longer trusted her daughter would be taken care of. Beth has lived at home ever since.
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